DEAR DEIDRE: I AM married but met up with a man who I used to work with – and we got so carried away we had sex in his car.
He promised we would be together. Now he has blocked me on social media and I have no way of getting in touch.
My marriage has not been working for a long time. I am 32 and have been married for eight years.
This man popped up on Facebook a month ago and I recognised him straight away. He is a handsome guy, a couple of years younger than me.
We worked together for a few months before I was married. At the time he was in a serious relationship.
I messaged him and he came straight back and suggested we go for a coffee to catch up. We had a lovely couple of hours that turned into going for a walk and then a drink in the evening.
I was honest with him and said I wanted to leave my husband. He said he was splitting up with his girlfriend, getting his own place soon, and I could move in. He asked if we could meet up the next day and I agreed. I was so excited as it all felt so right.
We went to the coast and had a wonderful day. He had parked his car in an isolated spot and when it was time to go home, instead of driving off he pulled me towards him and we started kissing.
He said he had always fancied me and how much he wanted us to have sex.
I was up for it too so we had sex on the back seat and it was mind-blowing. He was a bit quiet on the way home but I put it down to him being tired. He then dropped me back near to my home.
The next couple of days we were messaging normally but he didn’t ask to meet again. I have heard nothing from him now for a week and found he had blocked me when I tried to contact him.
I have feelings for him and I really hoped and believed he felt exactly the same as me.
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DEIDRE SAYS: Your marriage is flagging and you are emotionally vulnerable. It felt great to have this man seeming to fall over himself for you, but you might otherwise have been a lot more wary of his smooth talk and promises after just one date.
He has gone silent on you for his own reasons. Don’t waste more time or energy wishing and hoping it were otherwise.
Use this experience as a sign that you now need to deal with your marriage problems as a priority.
If you cannot resolve them, then you have to decide whether your marriage has a future.
Tell your husband a crisis is looming and you need to tackle it together.
My e-leaflet Your Relationship MOT will help you.
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